You ever just KNOW that you are meant for something greater? And that everything you are going through, everything you have endured has just been apart of your shedding season; grooming you for that next phase in life. Preparing you for next level. Ever since I was child, I’ve always known that working for someone else just wasn’t in His plans for me. I knew that I would go on to inspire and touch the lives of other people; but that first I would have to grow through some shit.
And man, have I been through some shit.
Haven’t we all, been through some shit.
Haven’t we all had those moments of self-doubt, and self-comparison.
Comparing our own successes and failures to that of other people.
Getting discouraged because from the outside looking in it seems as everything “comes” easy to everyone else, but ourselves. When 9 times out of 10 it is probably because they have already had their series of shit storms and we are just witnessing the results of them being faithful. Diligent. Steadfast.
You know all the things one is supposed to do, with the exception of giving up.
They have already released their dead weight. Properly prepared both mentally and physically to receive the blessings that God has prepared for them. And for some of us, we have to be honest with ourselves. We have to realize that sometimes we are in our shedding seasons longer than God intended us to be because we…
…fall into one of three categories:
- We are far too busy focusing on the seasons of others missing the lessons that He is trying to teach us.
- Some of us have failed to take action, and want to play victim. Complain, complain complain…misdirect blame and are blinded by anger that we can’t see beyond our circumstance.
- And then there are those of us who aren’t willing to do the things that those who have proven successful have been willing to do.
It’s been a solid two months since I have blogged. The longest I have gone without penning a single thought both on and offline. A time of reflection. A time of mental and physical strengthening. There’s something so empowering about experiencing your own weight-loss journey. The constant reminder to self that you can and you WILL reach your goal. The pushing of the mind and the body. The conditioning of one’s spirit to think past the pain removing the negativity and focusing on your desired outcome. Be it as it may, your success and the company you keep requires the same kind of mental conditioning. Here recently I did a re-prioritizing of friendships, both new and old.
Over the years, I have become very protective about the kinds of people and energy I allow into my space. Just as we detox our bodies of unwanted toxins; we have to do the same with our minds and the energy that we keep. Sometimes this means ending friendships with persons that we have outgrown and even friendships that we may have just started, but have quickly realized that the energy he or she gives of is not healthy for us. If every time you are meeting with your “girlfriends” and the energy is heavy. No work is being done. Words of encouragement are not filling the room and more times than not another person is the topic of discussion? Then what purpose do they serve other than to feed the self-doubts and insecurities you are already working hard to see past.
I mean because we all have insecurities we are trying to work past.
For the duration of 2017, I challenge each of you to focus on these three things:
Take the time to do something nice for a stranger. E-mail words of congratulations or encouragement to someone you respect. If you see someone having a bad day, do something to lift them up. Love your enemy. Regardless of how they treat you, show them that you love them anywho. Do something nice for them as well, after all, love overcomes hate. (cliche, but true). Love yourself. Make a reservation for one. Travel somewhere alone. Have a staycation. Read books. Laugh more. Just make sure every action, every decision is made from love. And then witness the changes it has not only on your life, but on your attitude and how you view yourself, your situation and the people who inhabit this earth.
Challenge yourself to complete at least 3 tasks that push you outside of your comfort zone. This month I am challenging myself to spend time in the area I wish to live, getting to the know the people and their love of the neighborhood. I am working on long term things, like debt relief and fixing my not-so perfect credit. What three things will you accomplish this month that will put you that much closer to living the life you dream of? Exercise more, set a minimum step count for the month. Take up a class, learn a new skill; but do something that is allowing you to exercise both your mental and physical.
I guarantee you that “those” people you are spending time comparing yourself to, you have spent no real time in getting to know. Instead take everything you are feeling towards them and yourself, and turn it into a positive by cultivating a meaningful friendship with them. I bet you will learn that your journey is not that different from their’s. Go to networking events and refuse to leave until you’ve made at least one new connection. We live in a “gimme, gimme” world that we often time forget the benefits of just building a relationship with a person. So, this month I challenge you to make at least three new connections. Rather its a good quick email just to say “HI!”. If, you see someone is visiting your area and you want to take them out for coffee, ask! Just start somewhere!
Alright my loves, that is my lil tid bit for the day!